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Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

Writing your own wedding vows can feel like a daunting task in the never ending task list of wedding planning. But with these tips listed below you will be able to create the most amazing wedding vows for the big day! Vows are very personal and a meaningful way to add a personalized touch to your wedding ceremony. Wedding vows are a great way for your wedding guests to get to know you as a couple. This is a moment that you are telling the feelings you have for your fiance to your fiance and wedding guests.

* Read vow examples & talk about your vows together as a couple. If you don’t know where to start just talk about your vows together and read a lot of examples of vows that have been written. There are so many ways to write your vows, so don’t get stuck in this idea of writing the perfect vow.

* Find your format and tone. Do you want your vows to be more humorous? Do you want your vows to be more romantic? Reflect on your feeling and your relationship as a couple to find your tone.

* Jot down notes about your relationship & story. How did your relationship start? What are your future plans? Why do you love your future spouse?

* Make a list. Just make a list of all the sorts of things you want to say in your vows. You might just see your wedding vows begin to form as you do this.

* Promises. What are the promised you will make to your future spouse in your wedding vows? Will you promise to love them through the thick and thin? Promise to travel the world together? what is your favorite memory?

* Write it all out. Just start writing, see what happens and what comes to mind. I think in that first pure moment you are pouring your feelings out onto paper. You might surprise yourself if you just site down and tackle this task.

* Avoid cliches and make it personal instead. Rather than saying something corny and cliche turn it into something more personal that has meaning for you as a couple.

* Take anything out that is cryptic or too embarrassing. Now is not a time for inside jokes, secret signals or embarrassing stories. While you want your friends and family that you invited to get to know you more your vows are not a time to put in stories.

* Practice out loud and edit as needed. You typically want your vows to be in between 1 to 2 minutes long. Do not put this task off until the last minute. Give this task plenty of time to edit and go over so you are ready for the big day.

* Make a final copy for yourself for your wedding day. You may want to make a backup copy for your maid of honor to hold onto in case you misplace yours in all the wedding day chaos.



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